ECCLESIOLOGICAL ETCHINGS
May 14, 2026
In the Men’s Group yesterday, after sharing the Joys & Concerns of the congregation, and then praying together, I turned on a TedTalk by a counselor specifically for men named Dustin Hogan. As it is Mental Health Awareness Month, and this Sunday we are having a specific worship experience on the topic, I thought it would be a good video to watch. At one point in the TedTalk, Dustin referenced his work as a counselor and how often he answers the phone, and the person on the other side is initially silent. After a period of time, the man often says, “This is the hardest phone call I have ever made…” What is the stigma surrounding men and mental health that makes that call so challenging? This is a rhetorical question, as I’m quite certain we all have some answers. More broadly, most people understand the cultural expectations that discourage men from sharing and being vulnerable, while simultaneously encouraging them to maintain a stoic facade that must remain strong and unmoved. Unfortunately, this has not produced a positive outcome for many men, who have been left feeling empty and broken, and who have resorted to pretending to ignore the symptoms of depression. Consider Jesus: he wept, felt compassion, spoke openly about loving people, and even cried out to God publicly during his moment of great suffering. I applauded the men who had gathered yesterday. They embodied the very essence of what every human being, especially men, needs—genuine community. In such gatherings, honest sharing and empathy are the norm. We must help people realize that prioritizing such relationships in our culture would significantly improve health, well-being, and peace in society.
You created us to be in relationship, O Triune God—relationships of presence, kindness, empathy, support, and love. Wherever it is lacking, provide us places where we can find communities of sacred friendships. Amen.
