Scripture: Matthew 14:14
When Jesus went ashore, he saw a great crowd; and he had compassion for them and cured their sick.
Thought for the Day: David Brooks wrote an OpEd in the New York Times entitled The Art of Presence. In the piece, Brooks offers some important advice for anyone who wishes to respond to another person’s grief. One piece of advice follows:
Don’t compare, ever. Don’t say, “I understand what it’s like to lose a child. My dog died, and that was hard, too.” Even if the comparison seems more germane, don’t make it. Each trauma should be respected in its uniqueness. Each story should be heard attentively as its own thing. “From the inside,” Catherine writes, comparisons “sting as clueless, careless, or just plain false.”
If someone knows your story, s/he may seek advice at some point down the road. This is a good door to keep open, but to automatically assume your feelings and experiences will match those of another is a terrible mistake. Simply being with another is much more important than seeking a comparison that often takes the focus off the one who is currently grieving.
Today is my mother’s birthday, and I don’t know anyone who offers compassionate care like she does. She has been an unpaid staff member at First Christian Church in Lincoln, NE, for close to 20 years. She gives leadership to care ministries, and I am amazed by the 1000’s of hospital and shut-in visits she has made during those years. And though my mother has known many tragedies in her life, she has a heart for doing nothing more than being with people during their time of need. The greatest gift a person may offer is the gift of his/her presence.
Prayer: Merciful God, I give you thanks for those who bring to life your compassion and love. May the power of their presence be a source of healing to all those who hurt and grieve this day. Amen.
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Excellent message and I thank you for sharing. Your description of your mom’s service for those in times of need is inspiring, I’m sure she has filled a need of love and assurance to many.